Its even worse when you are in love with someone that is too taken by himself to have any consideration for you.....If it were another woman, then damn, that would have been on me.......

by never again. 07:44:11 PM 2008.09.13

thats a good point i have a neighbor who is so in love with sex that he never has time to relize i love him too.

by i hate guys 08:37:01 AM 2008.09.14

those both sound hard. how's this: i'm taken but in love with one of his good friends who confides in me about how the two girls he thinks he's in love with are making his life a living hell and how he just wants to find a girl who will truly love him in return. if only he knew he'd already found her... if only i wasn't too afraid of being alone to leave my relationship and tell him how i feel...

by like the rain 05:49:16 PM 2008.09.14

I never realised how so many people have something in common. I have been friends with this guys girlfriend for a while. Truth be known, I started to really like him and didnt know how to explain it to his girlfriend. I kept it in for a while until I told him that I liked him and he suprised me and said that he liked me too. The girlfriend that he had was tearing him up. Get this that she was my friend, she couldnt help but cheat on him and when he cried, i felt so bad.

by I love him 08:36:11 PM 2008.09.14

I'M STILL IN LOVE WITH THE PERSON N HE ACTS LIKE I'M NOT EVEN THERE. I WANT HIM BACK BUT HE WONT ANSWER MY EMAILS THAT ISEND HIM. I EVEN WENT TO JAIL WITH HIM I BET THAT NOW OTHER GIRLS HAVE EVER DONE THAT FORHIM. BY I'M SO IN LOVE WITH HIM

by BETH 08:53:09 PM 2008.09.14

im in love with him and my friend betrayed me and went out with him so i couldn't. he likes me but he wont break up with him gf for me!

by inlovewithhim 10:33:52 PM 2008.09.14

i was in love with someone who was taken . taken by drugs he was my high school sweet heart he went off to collage and we talked once a week and never expected that he was on drugs that bad he was at a party , and we all know how collage partys are like. and i talked to him that morning and i never thought that would be the last time i would ever get to talk to him. R.I.P. DREW

by iwantedtomarryhim 12:00:35 AM 2008.09.15

i went out with the guy we broke up after a drunken nite proved hazardous (threesome was involved) he realized he was still in love with 2 other girls... we kept doing things im still in love with the man we would be goingon our one year anniversary this month...then i met a guy who was married and we started doing things and we fell for each other so i saved us both from hurt and told his wife he denied it all and called me a liar and now i might be pregnant im still in love with both guys i want to be with guy number one more than anything though i love him more than my own life....

by irish idiot 12:26:56 AM 2008.09.15

I am madly in love with this wonderful girl and have been for a long time. She is just amazing, we get along just fine, we share many things that we can talk about and much more. She does have a boyfriend that she has been with for a couple of years. We both have understood that she is with him, and needs to respect that, and I agree, and she does, and I honor that so much, but it does not mean I don't love her, and she does not love me, we just understand the situation for what it is. I feel that when she cry's, my heart cry's, when she smiles, my heart warms up, when I hear her voice, my heart swells up, and when she is close to me, my heart beats. I love you.

by Star 01:45:06 AM 2008.09.15

to i love him and star: thank you so much for leaving your stories. in so many ways i feel we are alike. it's a great comfort in a world that seems destined to keep hearts apart.

by like the rain 11:46:42 AM 2008.09.15

To Like the rain. Thank you as well. I am surprised that I did share this because I have felt so secluded for a while, but I am happy that I have released this from my body. I think now it is just about hoping to find that someone that I can share my life with in so many ways that it becomes one world. One world as the note book. I think most people find that odd coming from a 35 year old male. It is who I am.

by guest 12:10:32 PM 2008.09.15

YEA I LIKE THIS GUY BUT HE IS SO INTO THIS GIRL THAT HAS REJECTED HIM SO MANY TIME NOW HE SAY THET AM HIS BEST FRIEND AND AM LIKE HIS SITTER THATS SO STUPID

by TEARZ 11:08:38 PM 2008.09.15

Ya, that is. But you know, I honestly think that the people who know that they are doing when it comes to saying stuff like that they love one girl, and another girls best friend, is lost because they can't tell me they don't see the reality. If they can't see the reality in a situation like that, can you imagine if he was just focused on you. It would be worse. That is why I just let my pain for my situation be and really not express it other than here because I know that I have to let my heart breathe.

by Star 02:18:31 AM 2008.09.16

To guest: It doesn't matter what gender or age you are, everyone searches and, in turn, hurts. To TEARZ and Star: I COMPLETELY understand your situation. Some days I'm his sister, others, he just wants a casual hook-up (that I won't give because I know it will only hurt him -and me- more); some days I'm nothing to him, and others, his only shoulder to cry on. At first I was confused by it all, but now it just stings. However, except for here and MY shoulder (a simple playlist of empathetic songs), my pain is pushed to fester in the back of my heart. At times, it is relieving; and at times, the ache comes flooding back in full force. It is wonderful to have a place to release this.

by like the rain 03:09:13 AM 2008.09.16

Oh my goodness, all of you, I have love and respect for you all. I can't believe how many of us have this similar issue going on (still going on perhaps). The first time I saw him I thought wow. Then he had a girlfriend. Then I find out he and I have alot in common, music especially. He'd call me a couple times. Then he's got a 4 year old with her! And an 8 month old. And I looked into his eyes one night and can't describe this but i was mezmerized, I could have cried . I got so lost in them, in him. To stay around (i guess i was obsessed) I started dating a close friend of the group. We stayed together for 2 years! I moved in with him and did not love him like i loved my obsession. obsession would come over and hang out, we'd all do stuff together. I love his voice. He's perfect, all I ever wanted in a man. I have kept this a secret from all for 8 years. Only a couple years ago did I really accept it to myself that I love him as a soulmate. His girlfriend's bday was the day after mine even. I ended up moving out of state. They had ANOTHER baby right before that! Just a secret, i never told anyone till now and i never will. I will never ever see him again. This is really painful stuff. It's like grieving over death. Lately I have been thinking of him so much that I feel maybe he can feel me or he knows and I am starting to obsess and truly believe this cause if I dont there is no joy in my life and i am lonely. And its sad because I am extremely attractive and smart and kind but too shy to find someone. No one could ever compare to that night I gazed into his beautiful soul. I love you always. I have to believe this and I do it in my mind ever so respectfully because I know he has a family and stuff.

by just me 03:24:39 AM 2008.09.16

And maybe the more we are all open about it here, all it takes is time to heal this. Better than having a huge secret and lump in my throat, etc. Love to you all.

by just me 03:32:45 AM 2008.09.16

I wish I can say the same about moving on. I have honestly, but I am not honest to myself as to how easy it is. It's not, and we all know that, but now for me it is about wanting someone special in my life that will truly understand me. I am an attractive man, and I have a lot going for me, but I myself am a little shy, and also afraid of the people out here because they are so stereotypical, and fake. That only makes matters worse. At times I feel like blowing up, and other times I just feel like vanishing. What does it matter I tell myself, it is my heart so I will still feel pain, its the people who keep poking at it because they have nothing better to do that make the sore swell up. Am I a confused man? no, I am just tired of the bullshit.

by Star 05:25:20 AM 2008.09.16

it sucks to like someone but she is already with someone spetialy with youre best friend

by guest 07:50:28 PM 2008.09.16

So I began dating this girl that I really like, and was really open to a relationship. Well, after sharing a lot, and really enjoying my time with her, and her sharing very special words to me has no turned into that she feels that she can't open her heart to me because she is still in love with someone else. I won't make this long. So why the hell tell me everything she did and then drop me. She says I deserve someone better. Ya, whatever. Thats my favorite one by the way.

by Star 12:16:26 PM 2008.09.17

I fell in love with a married man, the worse type of taken I know. He sung a sad song about how his wife never gave him what he needed. I fell for it, he left her months later, even left me his new numbers and a msg about it, I thought maybe loving someone was enough to make them see you wouldn't do them wrong. Later(months), after several calls and emails, he calls me back and tells me he has a gf. 6 days later he sends me a msg to come over he's left her. I do and I had in my arms the one man that captivates me, I had an auto accident within minutes after leaving his appt and all still seemed to be well for a week or so afterward. My dad told me he was only calling out of guilt cause he felt somehow if he hadn't asked me to come I'd never been hurt. So now I'm pretty much a cripple and it's been over a week since we've spoke a word. Surprisingly now that everyone knows we had seen each other from time to time every chooses to tell me about seeing him with other various women. Goes to show that just because someone may say that love you too, they don't always mean it.

by forevertheotherwoman 04:25:37 PM 2008.09.18

I'm so embarrassed, ashamed and getting over it. Over it. Wish I never delved so deep into my own self like this. I don't know if it was actually worth it. I feel sick.

by just me 11:21:39 PM 2008.09.18

The real thing is that we never know if anything is worth it or not until we try. The important thing is not to get caught up with people that are involved. I know I feel that I have learned a lot and I am so great full for that.

by Star 12:55:41 AM 2008.09.19

I am greatful for that as well. I think, for myself anyway, that letting my feelings out in text is a wonderful release and is helping move on; or at least accept my situation and find happiness in it. I now see this as a learning experience and from now on will guard my heart from trials such as this.

by like the rain 04:15:14 AM 2008.09.19

I could not agree more. Although, I have moved on and still alone, I know that It is so much more worth it knowing my heart is not craving someone I can't have.

by Star 04:34:10 AM 2008.09.19

You are an inspiration to us all. I cannot wait until the day that I'll be able to say that for myself. Thank you.

by like the rain 03:16:56 AM 2008.09.20

The beautiful thing is that it will come, and it will be sooner than you think. I am very happy for you because you will have that, and many other awesome things.

by Star 04:39:23 PM 2008.09.20

Thank you.

by like the rain 06:41:16 AM 2008.09.22

This message board has helped me in so many ways I never thought it would... In the last two weeks, I have broken it off with my boyfriend of 14 months and begun moving on. The other guy I'm in love with has still failed to recognize it so I've decided it is time to move on from him as well. I will always care deeply about both of them but I refuse to let it run my life. It has been hard so far and the worst is yet to come but I am strong and will trudge through. I'm positive there is something better for me out there. Thank you again!!! So long, I wish you all good luck!!!

by like the rain 07:38:29 PM 2008.10.04

I NEVER BEEN INLOVE WITH SOMEONE WHOS WAS TAKEN. BUT I LIKE GETTING WITH FEMALES THAT ARE TAKEN. IT'S A CHALLENGE I SEEK. JUST TO PROVE THAT FEMALES ARE NOT BETTER THAN WHAT THEY THINK THEY ARE. WOMEN THINK THEY'RE THE BETTER SPICIES, THEY THINK THEY DESERVE EVERYTHING, THEY THINK THAT THEY CONTROL EVERYTHING, AND THEY THINK THAT IT'S SO COOL TO WHEN SOMEONE ELSE LIKE THEM BESIDES THEIR MAN.

by NO NAME 12:36:15 PM 2008.11.04

well i was goin out with this one boy for like 1month and like 2 weeks last year so then we broke up during the summer and then when school started we went back out so then we went ut about a month and he broke up with me to go out with my best friend and now im not speakin to him

by guest 08:54:53 PM 2009.01.22

Good evening! I have been reading the posts here and I guess I feel that most of this might be prevented if honesty with others was not such a huge, fearsome burden. May I share? Twenty-two years ago, I met someone who took the place of another. I was granted one night with him. It changed, and continues to change, my life. He was 19 and I was 31. I have suspected he lied to me by telling me that he was involved. He may have been fearful. What is remarkable, is that in using everything he gave me, I have purged out most of it in a novel, preparing it for submission. Midway through the book, I looked not into his soul, but into my own, and realized that, if I carried it for the rest of my life, and I may, I knew something that I had believed had gone to ground and was at rest, had been torn open and I realized I still love this guy. And I most likely will never see him again. If I can help by listening to anyone of you, I am listed on myspace, please know that I have walked where you walk, and I care.

by chains902 02:07:28 AM 2009.11.04

Hey! i always see this guy everyday at school and it's worse when his girlfriend is there also. it's even worse when he used to find out i was in love with him. so i always see him kissing his girlfriend everyday and i feel my heart breaking

by Lonely School Girl 04:37:45 AM 2009.11.08