HI, you are describing my life story for the past 5 years with a Bipolar II woman. (I didn't even know there were denrefift types of BiPolar). Anyway, if we got too close she isolated herself or started drama and disputes over nothing. It could be that she didn't like the way I sneezed (no joke). If I left her (and it happened several times during the relaitonship) suddenly she was the perfect mate and showed up at my door with an apology and how she may be afraid of commitment and all of this is possible. Hot and Cold are also signs of commitment phobia.The bottom line is that this behavior is NOT normal. There are issues these people need to sort out that have absolutely NOTHING to do with you. It may or may not be related to their BiPolar behavior but I'm not an expert. I can only share my experience and it's REALLY similar to yours.Consider yourself lucky. I dealt with this for 5 years but I chose to remove myself all together. Is it possible to have a long term relationship that takes a step forward and two steps back constantly? Basically, you'll be stuck in the same place for YEARS.Some people you have to love from afar and do not let them poison your well being. They are not happy inside and from your name .seems like you're not happy either.I've learned ..is it possible to be happy with someone that is unhappy? Probably not. You can bend over backwards, bring them breakfast in bed, make coffee just the way they like it and in the end they will complain about the dirty dishes after you spent hours cooking a special meal for them.Of course they want friendship but keep your boundaries. Although I'm still friends with my now ex, I have set boundaries. We only go out and do fun things (to avoid drama and in public it's less likely) but we don't discuss our previous romantic relationship of 5 years. Eventually, I will cut her off from my life all together because it's too draining to have a vampire next to you complaining about everything from the weather to the hot tub being too cold. You cannot make another person happy. But you can make YOURSELF happy .and it's not possible with this type of person unless they've dealt with their issues BiPolar or not .doesn't sound like he's dealt with his issues .and let me guess he doesn't have problems only YOU do. Until you remove yourself from the situation, he won't start dealing with his problems when he no longer has anyone to blame.Remove yourself for a while .if you can handle a friendship .think of the terms and the locations you'd be able to handle him. IF you can't, just remain no contact or tell him you're not interested in his crumbs anymore.I love my ex but I've learned to understand it IS an illness and you take the good with the bad .only if you want to .You don't have to Personally, I ONLY take the good now we're not together anymore so it's no longer in good times and bad. We see a movie, go out to dinner, spend 3 hours MAX together. If I sense drama or an argument I say I really did not meet with you today to argue but I respect your P.O.V. That usually ends the argument right there .Good luck to you .this is the hardest relationship to get OUT of but remember the glass is not ALWAYS half full .it's also half empty remember that .

by Pablo 02:47:07 AM 2015.10.11